Don’t let Facebook Break your heart and 10 other tips to healing a broken heart

Relationship Tip #15: What not to do when your healing your broken heart:
1. Don’t talk endlessly and analyze the facts and assumptions about the other person.
2. Don’t stalk them on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn or keep their profile open to you so that they can randomly pop up in your newsfeed and ticker tape.
3. Don’t call their friends and family just to say “hello” and then inexpertly ask them for information.
4. Definitely don’t randomly rage at them on the phone, through text or email and especially in person.
5. Don’t go to places that they usually go, so you might “innocently” bump into them.
6. Don’t avoid your feelings, whatever they may be. And don’t avoid crying.
7. Don’t blame yourself for everything and say things like, “if I’d just done this or that better”, “I’m such an idiot” “I really f**ked up”
8. Don’t assume that you got played and that the other person was just out to hurt you for their own diabolical purposes.
9. Don’t jump into a new relationship in order to feel better about the last one.
10. Don’t hate the other person.
11. Don’t make this the reason you will never love again.
If you avoid this major pitfalls, you can heal your heart in a healthy way. And always, always, always forgive the other persona and forgive yourself.

It’s Not You, It’s Me

Relationship Tip #12: You are the common denominator in all your relationships. I recently met a woman who, in her early thirties had decided she would never date or have a romantic relationship with a man again because “they are all crazy jerks”. I cannot relate to at all. I mean, it’s a candy store out there filled with amazing men (and women for that matter) who make wonderful friends, lovers, partners, associates. So, how could this one woman only find crazy jerks? She’s the common denominator and therefore it has everything to do with how she’s choosing and/or reacting. As soon as she saw the pattern and accepted (with tears) that she was the centre of the storm she began working toward love again. Are you the centre of your storm? Here are some clues: do you speak in absolutes, “always”, “never”. Do you find the same situation happens to you over and over again. Then you, my friend, are the common denominator and it might be time to change things for the better. As always, forgive yourself when you find it. We all have a little storm-maker in us.

Good Sex

Relationship Tip #11: Sex advice. When you’re with your lover remember to pay attention to the curves and bends. Particularly the inside curves. Press open mouth kisses on the inner elbow and back of knee, along the side of the waist and anywhere that bends. You will drive your partner wild and be delighted with the squirming, squealing and panting that is the result.  Tammy Cunningham

Dating: The List

Relationship Tip #1: Recently people have been asking me for advice on dating and relationship. Here’s one of my best tips… make sure you have a list of qualities. But it’s not what you think. It’s a list of qualities that you want to have, be and share in your life. Here’s a small sampling of my list: “I like feeling like I’m on a team. I want to be on team love.” Make sure it’s a list that you, and the person you’re attracting, can win at. If there are things on the list that are stretch for you… get stretching, learning and growing.