Relationship Tip #24: (A quick exercise) As we head into Valentines Day, watch the movie Forrest Gump. There are a lot of good reasons to watch this terrific film, yet I suggest you watch it from the perspective of the love between Forrest and Jenny. There are three major lessons to learn from Forrest (contains spoilers):
1. That when we love someone, we can be anywhere in the world doing anything and that person is with us. And we learn later that when he ran for 3 years, he was thinking of her the whole time. 2. To love with an open heart. He never falls into the trap of hating her. Whether she is to be ´just a friend´or his ´wife´ he doesn´t become bitter. So easily we can indulge hate where we once felt love.
3. He accepts her with her flaws and in the end she accepts him too.
Enjoy the movie. I´d love to hear your thoughts and relationship discoveries as well. Please feel free to comment below.
Relationship Quick Assignment: Watch the movie Friends with Kids. It’s an excellent example of three really great things:
1. Making very conscious choices in relationships.
2. Being a true support and an accomplice to another person’s happiness.
3. A man claiming a woman.
I highly recommend.
Relationship Tip #23: Valentine’s Day… commercial money grab? or romantic love fest. I’ve been hearing from many men and a couple of women that Valentine’s day is meaningless to them. They will not observe it even though the person that they’re in relationship with loves Valentine’s Day.
Here’s a rule of thumb around these kinds of things. If you have a philosophical or intellectual view of something that your partner has an emotional view on, I strongly suggest that you go with the emotional.
Now, this doesn’t mean running out to the mall to drop thousands of dollars. To honour the spirit of the occasion, is to honour the happiness of your partner. It goes back to an earlier tip, “Would you rather be right, or in relationship.”
For many, Valentines Day is the Superbowl in a year of relationship. Or for my geeky friends I say, it’s the Christmas Special in a Doctor Who Season. It’s Comicon.
I have a wonderful friend, who’s favourite holiday is Halloween. This time of year her house is more decorated than for any other holiday occasion. And her husband is her very willing sidekick and accomplice. That’s all it takes. Be the accomplice to your special person’s happiness.