Crazy in Love

Relationship Tip #21: Some of us live in Crazy Town and some of us are just passing through. Crazy town is that place we go when we hit an intimacy wall, or get scared, or confronted.
It can be just a fleeting moment in our reactions. Someone says that thing to you that triggers something unhealed and yucky, and you find yourself in Crazy Town turning the corner from Misunderstanding Boulevard to Primal Reactions Street. And you’re back from your unscheduled trip in just a few minutes.
Or you hit the wall hard, and spend an entire relationship there, never quite working out the childhood issues you had with your mother,father or a childhood bully.
Crazy town is broken up into smaller neighbourhoods. There’s Dramaville, Victim Village, Depressionside where the main street is Sagging Couch Lane. There’s Addiction Alley filled with many delightful distractions. And who can forget Self Sabotage Town. So many areas to discover and lanquish in.
Awareness is the first step to getting out of town. Think about it, where do you find yourself? I’ve been there. When I hit my wall, I end up at a “special place” called Jealousy lane and Regret Crescent. It’s a cul-de-sac and it’s hard to leave. Where do you visit when you go to Crazy Town? If you’re not sure about your “special place” ask a loved one. You may want to be sitting down when the tell you.
Once you know, there are three things you must do right away:
1. Admit to your loved ones. They already know, but at least you’re all on the same page.
2. Make a commitment to leave Crazy Town. Develop an exit strategy. Develop a care protocol that you use. If not to get yourself out, but at least to minimize the damage.
3. Forgive yourself, forgive yourself, forgive yourself.
Be compassionate of other people’s visits to Crazy Town.
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