From the as-yet-unwritten big book of Auntie Tammy advice I give you this:

When my nephew was just a little tyke, I realized that he needed some guidance that was different from his parents, school and peers and so I started to relay some of my wisdom and things that I figured out along the way.  I hope it will serve you well as I know it has served myself and my nephew.

Life is about having a good time. Sometimes that means just having the best time possible in a truly crappy situation. And sometimes that means planning for future good times. But, the long and short of it is the same. Have a good time.

It works like this:  Say you’re doing something fun.  While you’re doing said fun thing…. have a good time.  Don’t nag your sister, or get pouty about “before” or something that hasn’t happened yet, or start demanding things that someone has already said “no” to.  Not because you’re being a good boy or girl, but because you’re focussed like a laser on having a good time.

Sometimes having a good time is helping someone who is having a bad time have a better time or at least staying out of the way and making your own good time.  This doesn’t mean you’re responsible for their good times.  You’re always only in charge of your own good times.

Sometimes you have to plan for a good time.  Example:  Friday is 3 days away.  If you get things done now, then Friday is the beginning of a mini-vacation.  If you don’t, and you just sulk away in procrastination, then no mini-vacation.  Which is equal to no good time.  So plan for your good times.

Having a good time is a verb, which means it’s a doing.  Some actively “do” things.  Participate at 100%, even if it’s sleeping, eating, reading or farting.  I don’t care what it is… you can have a good time when you participate.

And always know that good times are coming even when things have become totally craptastic.