It’s Not You, It’s Me

Relationship Tip #12: You are the common denominator in all your relationships. I recently met a woman who, in her early thirties had decided she would never date or have a romantic relationship with a man again because “they are all crazy jerks”. I cannot relate to at all. I mean, it’s a candy store out there filled with amazing men (and women for that matter) who make wonderful friends, lovers, partners, associates. So, how could this one woman only find crazy jerks? She’s the common denominator and therefore it has everything to do with how she’s choosing and/or reacting. As soon as she saw the pattern and accepted (with tears) that she was the centre of the storm she began working toward love again. Are you the centre of your storm? Here are some clues: do you speak in absolutes, “always”, “never”. Do you find the same situation happens to you over and over again. Then you, my friend, are the common denominator and it might be time to change things for the better. As always, forgive yourself when you find it. We all have a little storm-maker in us.

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