Relationship Tip #4: Ask yourself, “Would I rather be right or in relationship.”. Being right is one of the main causes of relationship failure. A good example of what I’m talking about is the towels. I know so many people who must have the towels folded in a specific way and “can’t handle” it when someone does it “wrong”. This is not very relationship building. I personally would rather have a close relationship with a partner or my children and a messy linen closet. Being right leads us down a path to over-functioning, feeling alone, and putting up barriers to open and loving communication. Because you will end up doing everything, by yourself and the people around you will be tippy toeing instead of having an open heart to you. If you suddenly realize that you’ve been making your rightness more important than your love, forgive yourself and say yes to relationship.